Why don't people get it?

A recent discovery of mine led me to believe that some people just don't get it. Someone I know well had written an "analytical paragraph" but it wasn't analyizing, it was critizing the type of people she was talking about. When she had me peer review it, I could feel my emotions building up with rage and confusion as to why she did not get it. The worst, though, was when I talked to this person. She acted like I was the who didn't know what I was talking about. Unfortunantly, I knew all too well what I was talking about with her. Almost every single one of her statements was false, and proven to be so. She had said the problem she'd presented in the paragraph about the community had a "simple explanation." Yet, she had no idea about the topic she was attempting to explain. In her paragraph, she had made the comment that we had become victims of this type of person, when in fact THEY (the one's she called the victimizers) are the true 100% victims, they always will be. As I was talking to her, I could tell her thoughts and knew she did not agree with me at all, which is fine. . . Except for the point that I KNEW what I was taking about. I had concrete detail, I had personal stories and experiences, I had seen the process of what she was talking about more than once- when she had never seen, or heard about it; except from the Media which portrays it as the victim's fault....

After I had talked to her, with her eyes and mind glazed, I started to wonder why in the world she did not get it! I was furious and couldn't understand why she didn't get it, except for the probability that she was oblivious to the world, that actual world. She had pointed out what the people she was talking about were doing wrong, and they are wrong. But, she explained them as doing and being wrong in the wrong way. She didn't understand, or even listen to me as I was explaining facts surrounding the topic she was discussing. I also tried to explain that the world, for the most part, doesn't realize they are wrong. They haven't been taught what they are doing is wrong. When I told her this, she retorted with a personal story of places she had lived and what she had seen, implying that I was explaining in a sheltered mind (as I have lived in Utah my whole life). I then told the person stories, multiple, of what I had not only seen but personally experienced on the topics (she had brought up two) she was discussing.

She wouldn't listen to me. I realized she did not know anything about what she was talking about. She had lived the sheltered life. She had been told, "see that it is wrong" and unfortunantly she got the thought, "that is wrong so the person is wrong, too." If someone doesn't know better, you CANNOT punish them, you teach them. When a toddler goes into some areas that they shouldn't you should not yell at them, but let them know that they shouldn't be there, in the best way a toddler can understand, which is not yelling or condeming. For her whole life she had been taught what was right and wrong but never that some people's concept of right and wrong varies from hers. Some people haven't been taught the same or have the same belief system as she does, that means you can say they are horrible, because they may not know differently. I told her if I hadn't been taught what I was taught I would do what the world does, because frankly it wouldn't matter, there would be no obvious or almost any concequences. She did not get it, because she had never been taught the other half of the story and because she was not teachable. Many people aren't taught the other half of the story... but many will listen or will learn from their surroundings. Hopefully someday she will too, and maybe she will listen.